Random Access Memories

So, I have tried lots of online dating sites in the last decade. OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, Match.com, eHarmony.com, the Tinder app, etc. I have spent hundreds and hundreds of hours on profiles, special greeting messages, pictures, and even some money on premium services. Yet today as I found myself rewriting a profile yet again I suddenly realized something.

I have never, ever met someone in person because of one of those sites.

And it shocked me. All this time and effort expended, for nothing. Yet I kept coming back and spending time on it. Scratching away figuring that someone on there would want to spend time with little old me.

Where have I been meeting people?

Everywhere else.

The app Whisper, Facebook, Fetlife, RL meetups (Non-dating ones. Dating specific meetups produced the same empty results that online dating has.), etc.

So my conclusion? Don’t bother with dating sites or apps. They are a total waste of time, and a horrible waste of money. Your results will vary of course, but mine have had a failure rate of 100%.

I have better things to do with my time and money than waste it on services that provide a horribly false sense of hope.